Boudoir sessions have become one of my very favorite things to shoot. I know the idea may sound weird and uncomfortable, but my experience so far has been that after about 10 minutes, every woman falls in love with how she feels.
The whole idea of becoming a boudoir photographer was sparked by a horrific jeans shopping experience. I'd gained some weight and desperately needed new jeans, but the fit of each pair made me feel dramatically out of proportion to what these designers thought should be the norm.
I'm generally pretty happy with my body, but I left that mall feeling deflated.
Then, I came home and changed back into my yoga pants, because that's what we do, right? I looked in the mirror and of course saw my imperfections, but I also noticed that I was not, in fact, built out of proportion. I mean, maybe here and there, but overall, it wasn't that bad.
But man, can't all the commercials and Facebook ads and YouTube videos and Pinterest posts make us feel that way? I wanted to figure out how to show women that they're beautiful, how to make them feel confident, how to let them know that they are enough. And thus, an idea was born.
I've been thrilled with each boudoir shoot I've done, and each girl that has booked one has been just as excited as the man they gift their album to, because she saw herself for how gorgeous she really is. I don't do drastic editing (you see your photos the next day) because I don't have to. Any woman's body, when posed in the most flattering ways, is just stunning.
Having said all of that, I do find that women typically don't know what to bring to a boudoir session, so here are a few tips on that. Not everything here is mandatory, but if you come across something that sounds good to you, let's do it!
This one is a must. Nude heels, especially, elongate your legs in ways that you'd never know were the heels' doing! I also love anything with a little bling, and black heels are great, too. And we're not talking about the 1.5-inch things you may wear to work. Take an excuse to buy some stilettos, girl!
Perfectly Fitted Lingerie
I definitely recommend going to somewhere like Nordstrom and getting fitted to make sure the lingerie you're buying will fit perfectly. The last thing you want is to lie down and either not fill the cup or have it runneth over!
This can be anything from just a simple necklace and earrings to costume jewelry. We can have fun either way!
This is a wonderful option for the woman who is self-conscious about her tummy. With some great posing and an awesome cover up like this, you'll never know! I have a few examples on my Boudoir Pinterest Board.
Black Bra and Panties
This is a classic, but the photos I take in just a regular black bra and underwear are always among my favorites. This is flattering on everyone and a perfect, classic look! Don't feel locked into black on every outfit, though. Colors are good, too! (Just not fluorescent, please.) :)
The thong seems to have the reputation for being the sexiest undergarment, but the cheeky, boy short underwear is by far my favorite. It's such a tush flatterer! Bonus points if it's lacy or sheer and goes perfectly with the black bra you're bringing. Also, can we do something about the word 'panties'? It makes me cringe. Am I alone in this?
Something of His
If you're doing a boudoir shoot more for your fiancé/husband than for yourself, it's great to bring something that's meaningful to him. Let's take it a step further than just a white button up, though. His favorite jersey and some boy shorts? I mean, I've even used a gun. Use your imagination!
A Tank Top
Don't feel like you have to spend a month's salary at Victoria's Secret just to have a boudoir session. Sometimes a pretty pair of panties and an off-shoulder shirt or a tank top is all you need! Guys are pretty easy to please. :)
Of course I'm 110% on board with women booking a boudoir shoot specifically for themselves. Something even along the lines of a just-right cocktail dress would be wonderful. Everyone can benefit from the experience of seeing herself with her hair and makeup done in any outfit she loves.
I truly believe these photos are intended just for the woman in them and her husband. (And maybe an occasional girlfriend.) If you're interested in a session, send me an email, and I'll show you a private gallery of a few girls that have given me their permission to do so privately.
But because no blog post feels complete without a photo, here are A's killer shoes from her session.